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Chewy and the Hairy Back

So we just watched the latest Star Wars with my oldest son, and we had a chance to remind ourselves of how great this series really is.  From Luke, to Princess Lei, my husband and I grew up on Star Wars, and it’s so nice to be able to share it with my son.  Eventually we will bring the other kids into the Star Wars world as they get a little older.

It did get to be a little uncomfortable for my husband as he’s quite embarrassed about his body hair, especially his back hair, and while he doesn’t quite have the chewy look, it can get quite hairy back there.  So of course kids being kids, my son sees Chewy for the first time and jokingly looks at his dad and says “Dad, you’re in the movie!”  My husband looked demoralized, but to his credit he rebounded pretty quickly.

Luckily for him I got him a Razorba razor for his back for his birthday, which he was excited about.  He’s always loved being in the pool with the kids, but now that they are older we have started having families over at our pool, so my husband wasn’t always comfortable with how he looked, that and the awkward kid questions.  We found good reviews on www.backshaverreviews.com, on this and the electric razors, but I felt in the long run having a non mechanical shaver was the best bet, that and he could use the same razors he’s been using made the most economical sense.

imgresLuckily for me I don’t have the same problem 🙂 but I understand what it’s like to not want hair, hair on my legs grosses me out, same with armpit hair.  Man hair isn’t so bad, but it’s much nicer to give a hug to a smooth back man than a hairy sweaty back.  And I want him to be comfortable too, and not feel like a gorilla around the kids.

So getting back to Star Wars, I was blown away by the Force Awakens, much much better than the last three that came out.  I’m really excited for the next two if they continue to make it like this one.  I think we will have a few outdoor star wars movies this summer in our backyard.  We bought a projector last year for this purpose but never got around to using it, so this summer I’ll find a nice white sheet and hang it out, bring out the projector and some popcorn, and lots of mosquito spray and candles, and see how it goes.  Likely I’ll need to put the younger two down, but the oldest can stay up, and he will have a blast as he loves movies.  And who wouldn’t like a movie outside under the stars?  I can’t wait for the warmer weather, sipping nice wine, and maybe having a nice grilled dinner.  Sounds delicious.

 

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3 Manners all Kids should Have

A great ariticle on Parenting.com talks to the manners kids should have at a given age, as well as how to deal with these behaviors.  I learned some nice bits of advice, and a better understanding of my kids, as well as how my behavior is likely causing these issues.  Yes, it’s partly my fault!

The article starts out discussing Back Talk, which I deal with on a daily basis, my oldest has started saying “no” at the beginning of each sentence back to me, as in “Kiddo can you clean up that mess before dinner?” Him: “No we are still playing with it”.  And other times I get the real back talk from things like “it’s our job to keep the house clean” “no it’s not!”.  These types of conversations make my blood boil, and I often find myself counting to ten in my head as the words that want to come out won’t help the situation at hand at all, in fact they likely will not only make it worse, but also teach him incorrect behavior.

First up is the 2 year olds, yes those fun terrible twos which I actually think pale in comparison to the 3’s.  The article has the following point.

Brat Buster: Count to three. A snappy comeback might help you blow off some steam, but there is no dignity in mudslinging with a minor. Instead, remember that this is a teachable moment: Say something like, “I know what you really meant to say is, ‘Sure, Mommy, I’ll pick up my toys.'” Then help by giving clear, specific instructions that she can follow. Remember, she’s only 2 — you need to help her focus on what you want her to do.

With this scenario they recommend you think of your toddler as a scientist, in that she’s trying to figure out the reaction her sassiness will have on you.  It’s a typical maneuver, they are learning, they see other kids do this, and they want to see what it can get them.  Plus if she complies with your requests, then you stop paying attention to her.  So bam, here she is, sassing, looking for attention, and the worst thing to do is sass right back.  What does that teach her?  Instead you need to be calm, focus on her, and don’t take the bait, but don’t ignore it.

Next up are those moody and mean 4 year olds, with comments like “I hate you” and “you’re the worst mom ever”, and boy those sting, but they know it, and they likely are just frustration and not having a good outlet to vent.  As a 4 they want to be independent, but they exist in a world where we constantly tell them what to do, and how to do it.  They have to behave all day at school, and most of the time this moodiness is a coping strategy.  So make sure you keep your calm, remind them that name calling is not nice and hurts people’s feelings.

5’s were last in their list, and they discuss the anger and desire to be independent.  The example was around asking your 5 to turn off the TV and they throw the remote on the floor and slams her door shut.  Yikes, we’ve all been there.  This all stems from not knowing how to feel mad and react accordingly.  They don’t know yet how to express their anger, as anger is a confusing emotion that even Adults get wrong a lot of the time.  In this case you need to help your child discuss their emotions while teaching them that behaving badly is not the right response

 

Makes me Laugh

 

This video made me laugh and remember when my kids were this young.  Man how they can copy us adults.  I remember a teacher telling me they learned so much about their kids parents by the way the kids acted at school.  I can understand how after seeing how these kids behaved.  Luckily, as far as I know, my kids are well behaved at school and don’t display too much attitude toward the teachers, but I know at home is a totally different story.

My daughter is a real princess, or so she thinks, so much that she requires at least 3 dress changes each day, and her pajamas need to match or she will throw a real big fit.  That being said once she’s in her outfit she has a smile that will melt anyone’s heart, but the look on her face when you tell her she can’t change again into a new dress, even though she claims the one she is wearing got dirty in the last 30 minutes, is hysterical.  It’s almost like the baby on the first screen of the video above.  I can’t wait to show it to her when she’s older.

A lot of books will say that it’s best to raise an adult than to raise a child, meaning we don’t want our kids to be followers, to be passive, we want them to be strong and stand up for themselves when they are adults.   So the one school of thought is to punish their “bad” behavior and teach them to be kids, well, think about if the behavior you want know will benefit them when they are older?  My kids have developed a independent spirit, a bull headed stubbornness, and a penchant for questioning.  All 3 of those I would welcome as an adult, or even a teenager.  I don’t want my kids to succumb to peer pressure, I want them to stick up for themselves and their friends/family, I want them to make good decisions for themselves and not based on what others are doing, and I want them to learn, and to do so you need to question.  The great discoveries of the world were not made by following the crowd, no, they were made by questioning current assumptions and essentially breaking the rules.  Obviously some got into serious trouble, Galileo anyone?  But he was right, and he advanced science further than anyone.

So based on this I encourage my kids behaviors that I think will benefit them as they grow as long as they remain respectful and communicate.  I don’t accept screaming, whining, hitting, yelling, as those aren’t good adult behaviors either.  So if they don’t want to go and do something, I encourage them to talk through the why’s with me, and I also try never to say “because” and leave it at that, instead I do give solid reasoning, even if it takes longer and I’m tired.  I try to show how to reason and communicate so they have a solid base to grow from.

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Opening Line

My kids have always had attitude, and not always in a bad way, but more in a “trying to find themselves” attitude, of which I completely understand.  I mean I would not like someone always telling me what do to, to clean up, to eat nicely, to stop hitting your sister with the baseball bat.  As much as these occurrences drive be absolutely batty (ha, no pun intended) I know the ones I remember will likely be hilarious and brought up at future weddings, or improper occasions when I’m old and had a few cocktails.  I wanted to start this blog to talk about these moments, as well as to collect them to hopefully use as starter stories for future books or articles.

So what defines an attitude?  Well my oldest this morning, and he’s 5, woke up happy, but decided to be a grumpy pus 10 minutes later and refused to eat breakfast.  Being the smart 5 year old he could totally see how it would only hurt me and not impact him at all. He kind of had this face.

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I politely reminded him that if he didn’t eat now, he would be starving later.  So I finally got him to sit down for him to literally eat one piece of cereal, to which he pushed the bowl across the table.  I packed some cheerios which he devoured as soon as he got into early care.  What a bugger.

My youngest, who is only 2, has decided that he doesn’t like me anymore, in fact any time I try to wake him up to change him for school, or even put him down at night, he tells me “NO!” for some reason.  He’s just copying his siblings, but man, he’s good.